I've been reading bits and pieces on the net, things like Propinquity and Stockholm Syndrome, both of which I've never heard of before. It's got me thinking. They seem to be related in that the victim and abuser are in close contact for an extended time. This also explains why a mother and child develop such a close bond, not the Stockholm Syndrome but Propinquity.
Propinquity is a word for the phenomenon whereby people are more likely to develop close relationships with those they are in closest contact with, like a work colleague, neighbor, frequent visitor, mother, father and so on.
Stockholm syndrome, on the other hand, is the propensity for a victimized person to develop strong feelings for the person who is abusing them. Check this article out for a more detailed and informed explanation. Wandervogel Diary
I have a friend, male, who was abused by a woman for about 3 years, kicked between the legs, punched in the face sworn at over and over again, mocked and taunted all the time. I often wondered why he just kept going back for more and more and more. Here's a link to an interesting article about "Battered Man Syndrome" It may seem quite funny that a woman could abuse a man, I mean, men are so much stronger than women. Aren't they? But you see, this man was raised in a family where he was taught that a man never hits a woman, never ever. She was a very beautiful woman and therefore had lots of male admirers who were only too keen to add to my friend's misery with mockery and abuse.
Three years after these people went away he is still unable to distance himself from this abusive woman emotionally. I think I now understand why.
Neither Propinquity nor Stockholm Syndrome are very well understood yet by Psychologists but they do acknowledge that both are very real. I was a single parent and I think propinquity could account for the tremendous relationship I have with my children. I've also been abused by a woman and do admit that my feelings for her are way out of kilter, someone once said to me I was suffering from abused person syndrome: Stockholm Syndrome.
Oh well, that's my little bit of enlightenment for today, God loved me and stood by me when I needed him the most, he's still with me even though things are going so much better. Thank you Lord for your love, I really do appreciate it.